The link between depression and erectile dysfunction (ED) can be a complex one; the two conditions can co-occur and one can lead to the other. A characteristic of depression is loss of libido or low sex drive, so this can lead to ED or the inability to enjoy normal sexual functioning.
Men can also become depressed as a result of ED, because it may make them feel emasculated or withdraw from close relationships. Certain types of antidepressants can also interfere with sexual function, making the problem worse. All these factors can add up to a very difficult situation for men who are struggling with ED and depression.
This can also be a challenging and emotionally draining situation for their partners. Here’s a look at some helpful coping
strategies.
Educate yourself about the conditions
As we have seen, the relationship between ED and depression is complex, and everyone’s experience of a mental health problem will be unique to them. Take some time to learn about both conditions and the specific ways they might be affecting your partner. Make sure you use reliable resources and talk directly to medical professionals where possible.
For example, ED is a very treatable condition, so if this is causing your partner’s depression rather than being a result of it, find out about suitable treatments and find a sensitive way to broach the topic with your partner. Oral medications such as tadalafil (the trade name for Cialis) have been proven to be effective for millions of men worldwide.
It’s available to buy online without a prescription, but it’s always advisable to check up with a doctor first to rule out any other health issues that could be causing ED, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, high cholesterol, or heart disease.
Be compassionate and open
Depression and ED can be a significant strain on a relationship, and your partner may struggle to express their feelings or feel a sense of shame, failure or inadequacy that prevents them from opening up. This can compound the problem and even lead to the unravelling of the relationship, so it’s important to keep the lines of communication open.
Avoid putting too much pressure on your partner, and listen to what they say without interrupting or giving them unwanted advice. Acknowledge their feelings without judgement and ask open ended questions to encourage them to open up.
Encourage them to take care of themselves
There’s a strong link between unhealthy lifestyle choices and poor mental health, and also ED. This can be improved by exercise, so find an activity that you both enjoy and can do together, such as cycling, yoga, or hiking. Plan healthy balanced meals to eat together and limit alcohol intake.
Encourage professional help
Men’s mental health is a topic that has received a lot more attention in recent years, in light of shocking statistics that show suicide is the biggest killer of men under the age of 50 in the UK. There are many initiatives both within the NHS and in private healthcare services to provide better quality diagnosis and interventions for men struggling with their mental health.
For example, the men’s health charity Movember has a lot of helpful guidance on its website, and more workplaces are recognising and taking steps to combat the issue. Professor Galdas of York University leads the Movember-funded BALM programme ((Behavioural Activation for Low Mood and anxiety in male NHS frontline workers).
Commenting on a new report into the poor state of men’s health, Professor Galdas, said: “The poor state of men’s health shown clearly in this report is a shocking and deeply sad result of decades of neglect to address the underlying issues affecting men and their health.
“The issue is complex, which is why we need a comprehensive approach that doesn’t just tinker around the edges but revolutionises the rules and fundamentally improves the quality of healthcare and health education for men and all genders.”
Take care of yourself
Supporting your partner through this difficult time may take its toll on your own health, so safeguard this and understand your own limits. Set boundaries and make time for your own pastimes and activities. Seek the support of your friends and family, but be mindful of your partner’s privacy.
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